Music is the gateway to one’s heart.
Think about it, in one four minute segment an abundance of emotions are felt. In these emotions are many different thoughts, memories and feelings that are all over the place. All this is experienced in one beautiful short segment of time.
Just one song can trigger these emotions about someone you care deeply about, bringing waves of nostalgia. A song can also work in your favor, by having another person experience these feelings with you in mind. This is the beauty of music.
In a Long Distance Relationship, music, and in this case, a group of songs, can be your absolute best friend.
A playlist is designed to accomplish a few goals. The first is to remind you both of your special relationship. Second, it provides an avenue to bring back shared memories you both have. Last, it helps plant seeds of anticipation till your next meeting in person.
I personally have an infatuation with music, and have always utilized it to help form a bond with my crush or significant other. Why is this? Music plays a big part in my habits (I prefer it over watching TV) and I know if a relationship has any chance of working out, we must be on the same page with our tastes.
Everyone is different in the amount they listen to, but the point is to create a shared experience that helps send a message to your significant other on your behalf (and vise versa). Think of it as your carrier pigeon!
In my current relationship, in which I successfully closed the gap, music is a big point of emphasis between the two of us. It was a way we kept in touch even before we started dating. Soon after we took that next step in the relationship we stumbled on the activity of creating a shared playlist. We even named it based on a funny road name we discovered while at a wedding we attended early on. Now, whenever we listen to this playlist we instantly are reminded of the memories we call our own 🙂 . (Dickpond Road if you’re wondering!)
While what we created was a collaboration, there’s another type of playlist I find to be worth mentioning.
The art of crafting a playlist (or a CD back before any of these streaming services existed!), with intentions of conveying a message to someone. Giving this gift of hand-selected music is an offer to glimpse into your soul. It makes you completely vulnerable (which is good) and exposes some of your intentions.
You will wonder, will they like my music? Will it be overwhelming? Do they understand what I’m trying to say?
These thoughts of anxiety are the moments where anything can happen. Especially if you know your recipient well enough.
Depending on the stage of the relationship you’re in, there’s even different types of messages you can send.
In the beginning, before a deep connection, sharing a playlist is a lot like offering a gift to new neighbors. You want them to feel welcomed, and in this case, test the water to see how they’ll react.
You’re looking to see if their interest is reciprocated. You will not only getting a better understanding of their musical tastes, but on their character too. And most importantly, you’re planting a seed to help them keep you in your mind.
Fast-forward down this relationship timeline and you’ll enter territory of playlists with mutual meanings. It is here where being in a long distance relationship is the perfect opportunity to use this tactic.
Building Your Playlist Together
It’s likely you have at least a few shared experiences together, regardless of if you’ve met in real life. A great place to start is including a song played during your first date (tip: it could be from a movie too). From here, begin to add to the collection with any others that you enjoy or remind you of your significant other. You can also add songs based on a common theme too; songs about relationships, love, Holidays, birthdays or even the anticipation of a summer meet up.
The key behind the playlist is to just have fun with it.
Where you create it is another decision. There are quite a few streaming service options available, depending on your preference. I won’t get too detailed but your typical choices include Spotify, Apple Music, Pandora and SoundCloud (plus a few more). Each has the ability to listen to music for free, and most create and send playlists.
I have been a Spotify user for as long as the service has been around, and I still love it. With this in mind, Glenna and I have created a playlist to share and we’ve opened it up to anyone who wants to contribute to it.
Happy listening and sharing!
Long Distance Life Playlist
Want another good playlist option? Check this one out from Long Distance at Reddit.