Long-distance relationships are an exercise in compromise. Staying close despite the miles between you requires agreement on who does most of the traveling (and how frequent the visits are), who shoulders the burden of expenses, how much time you can each take off of work, and how often you communicate throughout the week. The need to find balance in each of these areas means that good communication is absolutely essential in making a long-distance romance last.
I should point out that by “balance,” I don’t mean “a 50/50 split in everything.” If one of you has a more flexible job, it’ll make sense for that person to do more of the traveling. Maybe one of you earns less than the other or has an annoying roommate. One of you is outgoing and could talk all night long, while the other finds long, rambling phone conversations excruciating. You’ll need to recognize and consider all of these little factors if you’re seeking the right kind of give-and-take for your relationship.
To get there, you really have to know yourself and your partner. Know what you require in a relationship and what your partner can realistically give, and build compromises together.
For further tips and advice:
Communicating in a Long-Distance Relationship
When all you want is to hear his voice, how do you deal with a long-distance partner who doesn’t say much on the phone?
Who Should Pay for Travel?
It might be overseas flights if you live in different countries, or it might be half a tank of gas if you’re a few hours away. Either way, someone has to cover the expense. But who?
A long-distance relationship can have implications for your schedule, your vacation time, and even your average workday.
Establish boundaries early on so that both of you are on the same page when you go out separately with your friends.